Lead222 Blog part 2

Building “Authentic Community” into your personal life

Who knows you?  Who REALLY knows you?
There are significantly different answers to these two questions. To have a genuinely deep relationship with anyone, it is first born out of having spent time together, combined with honest conversations that might not always be comfortable.  There is a world of difference between a friend asking about the score of the ball game, or them asking about areas in your life where they know there is a predisposition for you to be tempted towards sin.

I’m convinced that one of the reasons many people experience intense loneliness in life (and particularly as leaders in ministry) is that they aren’t seeking relationships where they get to be exposed just as much as they are doing the exposing.  It is not safe. It embraces a risk of people realizing that you are even less perfect than the public persona they’ve already seen, and you don’t know how they might respond. They might even challenge you to change, which may be needed, but uncomfortable. Remember that  Proverbs 27:17 says “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

You may have a wise friend or two that you are already in authentic community with. Thank them for being in your life, and make sure your times together stay a priority in your calendars.
If you don’t have a relationship with someone which reflects this value, you have critical decisions to make.  Pray and consider who God might be nudging you to pursue a deeper connection with.  Maybe buy them a cup of coffee and start going deeper by sharing hopes/dreams/fears/weaknesses of your own, and asking about theirs too.  At some some point, you may even directly ask them if would be willing to commit to being part of a more authentic community experience with you.







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